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]]> By: Sami http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1814 Sami Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:23:44 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1814 @Lori Hey Lori. Thank you so much for your lovely comment. You're such a sweetheart you know? If it's one thing I've learnt, it's that having a sense of humour is one way of healing! And yep, there's nothing like the D word to thrust you into re-evaluating, self analysing and jumping up a few levels of awareness. I really do hope that others who might be going through this (or other crises) will get something out of it that helps. The fact that so many people have been through the D word (you included) just goes to show there are a lot of people out there having to cope with it. Sometimes it helps to know others have been there and that there really is light at the end. As for healing with smiles, I think you're the messiah of that, Chicka! xxx @Lori
Hey Lori. Thank you so much for your lovely comment. You’re such a sweetheart you know? If it’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that having a sense of humour is one way of healing! And yep, there’s nothing like the D word to thrust you into re-evaluating, self analysing and jumping up a few levels of awareness.
I really do hope that others who might be going through this (or other crises) will get something out of it that helps. The fact that so many people have been through the D word (you included) just goes to show there are a lot of people out there having to cope with it. Sometimes it helps to know others have been there and that there really is light at the end.
As for healing with smiles, I think you’re the messiah of that, Chicka! xxx

]]> By: Sami http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1812 Sami Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:07:15 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1812 @Cheryl Hey Cheryl. You bring up a great point; the grieving process is really important. If you don't allow yourself to go through it, it'll come back to haunt you in some way. Taking 18 months to grieve is a unique way to handle it and good for you for having the courage to face the pain. It's not easy but being "strong and clear" is definitely worth it. It's so awesome you've come to the point where you're ready to re-engage in relationships. Taking the time out to sort yourself out before jumping in to another relationship is a very wise move and I'm sure you and whoever you end up partnering with will reap the benefits. Thanks so much for sharing your story Cheryl. You're an inspiration Chicka! @Cheryl
Hey Cheryl. You bring up a great point; the grieving process is really important. If you don’t allow yourself to go through it, it’ll come back to haunt you in some way. Taking 18 months to grieve is a unique way to handle it and good for you for having the courage to face the pain. It’s not easy but being “strong and clear” is definitely worth it.
It’s so awesome you’ve come to the point where you’re ready to re-engage in relationships. Taking the time out to sort yourself out before jumping in to another relationship is a very wise move and I’m sure you and whoever you end up partnering with will reap the benefits. Thanks so much for sharing your story Cheryl. You’re an inspiration Chicka!

]]> By: Cheryl from thatgirlisfunny http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1810 Cheryl from thatgirlisfunny Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:18:07 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1810 Hi Sami, Wow! Deep topic you've chosen. As I worked through my last heartbreak, I realized that I never truly allowed myself to go thorough and complete grieving. I stopped, almost punishing myself, for feeling sad and blue "for too long". I decided that I would make a list - like I wrote everything down - of things that ended that I still felt pain and sadness over. I then spent 18 months grieving - like going through the whole process. I floated through my days the pain was so intense sometimes. It felt like the right thing to do as I realized how much emotional work I had left undone. Now, 2 years later, I'm strong and I'm clear. Funny that we're talking about this because just yesterday, I declared myself ready to re-engage in relationships where I open my heart and let people in. Whew! Now it's real. Just said it in print, on-line. Sweaty palms now. Glad I stopped by so I could say that. Thank you, Sami! Hi Sami,
Wow! Deep topic you’ve chosen. As I worked through my last heartbreak, I realized that I never truly allowed myself to go thorough and complete grieving. I stopped, almost punishing myself, for feeling sad and blue “for too long”. I decided that I would make a list – like I wrote everything down – of things that ended that I still felt pain and sadness over. I then spent 18 months grieving – like going through the whole process. I floated through my days the pain was so intense sometimes. It felt like the right thing to do as I realized how much emotional work I had left undone. Now, 2 years later, I’m strong and I’m clear. Funny that we’re talking about this because just yesterday, I declared myself ready to re-engage in relationships where I open my heart and let people in. Whew! Now it’s real. Just said it in print, on-line. Sweaty palms now. Glad I stopped by so I could say that. Thank you, Sami!

]]> By: Lori http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1809 Lori Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:26:33 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1809 Hi Sami, I understand your hesitation to discuss difficult parts of your life. But, somehow, you seem to do it in an uplifting way. I have no idea how the heck you do it - infuse such spunk in such a raw and painful experience (e.g., gravel sandwich, anyone?). Personally, I think it is refreshing to see that others are going through, or have gone through difficult times, too. It only makes you more real. It is also a lot more meaningful to see proof of the other side - your current life. I'm sure my biggest "self-help binge" was during my divorce. Wise words do wonders for others, me included. I just know that your words here along with Part 2 will be helping a lot of people out there, Sami. And your progression through your pain certainly mirrors what I've experienced. Two thumbs up, girl! You're a masterful healer - healing with smiles! :) Hi Sami,
I understand your hesitation to discuss difficult parts of your life. But, somehow, you seem to do it in an uplifting way. I have no idea how the heck you do it – infuse such spunk in such a raw and painful experience (e.g., gravel sandwich, anyone?).

Personally, I think it is refreshing to see that others are going through, or have gone through difficult times, too. It only makes you more real. It is also a lot more meaningful to see proof of the other side – your current life. I’m sure my biggest “self-help binge” was during my divorce. Wise words do wonders for others, me included.

I just know that your words here along with Part 2 will be helping a lot of people out there, Sami. And your progression through your pain certainly mirrors what I’ve experienced.

Two thumbs up, girl! You’re a masterful healer – healing with smiles! :)

]]> By: Sami http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1808 Sami Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:46:44 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1808 @Lance Thanks for your lovely comment Lance. It means a lot. I'm hoping my story and how I dealt with it will help others. It was painful for sure but there's been a huge amount of good stuff come out of it (more than I could ever imagine) so in a lot of ways I'm lucky (and grateful) to have been through it. Thanks again my friend. You're always a huge support and it's appreciated. @Lance
Thanks for your lovely comment Lance. It means a lot. I’m hoping my story and how I dealt with it will help others. It was painful for sure but there’s been a huge amount of good stuff come out of it (more than I could ever imagine) so in a lot of ways I’m lucky (and grateful) to have been through it. Thanks again my friend. You’re always a huge support and it’s appreciated.

]]> By: Sami http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1807 Sami Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:41:56 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1807 @Positively Present Hey PP, thanks so much. Hopefully talking about it can help others. It does me good to talk about it too. While I wouldn't say I'm completely recovered, I've come a very long way. @Positively Present
Hey PP, thanks so much. Hopefully talking about it can help others. It does me good to talk about it too. While I wouldn’t say I’m completely recovered, I’ve come a very long way.

]]> By: Sami http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1806 Sami Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:38:48 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1806 @Keith Hi Keith, thanks, I'm glad the positivity and happiness is still shining through despite the subject matter. It's amazing to me how many people have experienced divorce. It's not an easy thing to go through by any means. I can understand why you closed yourself off to everyone. I had many days where I wanted to just stay in bed and not face the world. It wasn't an option though given my job but in a way I'm glad it wasn't. I was forced to deal with the situation and learn how to cope. Whilst painful at the time, it's made me a better person. Judging from your blog, you've more than recovered! So great to see. Thanks for sharing your story Keith. @Keith
Hi Keith, thanks, I’m glad the positivity and happiness is still shining through despite the subject matter.
It’s amazing to me how many people have experienced divorce. It’s not an easy thing to go through by any means. I can understand why you closed yourself off to everyone. I had many days where I wanted to just stay in bed and not face the world. It wasn’t an option though given my job but in a way I’m glad it wasn’t. I was forced to deal with the situation and learn how to cope. Whilst painful at the time, it’s made me a better person.
Judging from your blog, you’ve more than recovered! So great to see. Thanks for sharing your story Keith.

]]> By: Lance http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1805 Lance Tue, 24 Nov 2009 19:34:20 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1805 Hi Sami, I know you are in a good place now (that makes me smile). While I have been aware of where you were coming from, I didn't know the details. And it does sound painful. I appreciate very much how openly you are sharing here. That's something you do so well, and this is just another example of that. Know that I see you as a shining star, and filled with love and caring always... Hi Sami,
I know you are in a good place now (that makes me smile). While I have been aware of where you were coming from, I didn’t know the details. And it does sound painful. I appreciate very much how openly you are sharing here. That’s something you do so well, and this is just another example of that. Know that I see you as a shining star, and filled with love and caring always…

]]> By: Positively Present http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/climbing-out-of-the-depths-of-despair-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-1803 Positively Present Tue, 24 Nov 2009 02:42:15 +0000 http://www.lifelaughsandlemmings.com/?p=3879#comment-1803 Wow, Sami... Thank you for sharing this. It's awesome that you can open up and talk about this. I'm looking forward to reading what you have to say in Part 2. Wow, Sami… Thank you for sharing this. It’s awesome that you can open up and talk about this. I’m looking forward to reading what you have to say in Part 2.

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